Childhood years are the most crucial time of our children’s life. It’s when they learn how to behave, learn boundaries and how to communicate with others. Still, we tend to forget how much children learn from other children, how their environment may influence them and how they face situations.
Have you ever thought that maybe your child’s tantrum isn’t just them being difficult? The relationship between a parent and a child during childhood years is important and enables us to build a close bond, teaching our children about life. Children need to push boundaries in order to find them, and stroppy tantrums are their way of rebelling, showing they are not happy or pushing for independence. However, sometimes there can be a more important reason as to why your child is throwing tantrums all the time.
Friends are an incredibly important part of any child’s life and a disagreement or an upset can feel like the end of the world to them. Parents can be tearing their hair out over the other children that their son or daughter hangs around with, but it can be difficult to make your kids understand your concerns. A recent study by Voucherbox reveals that over 40% of parents disapprove of at least one of their children’s friends, and an amazing one in three admit to not liking the parents of that child either. While most parents try to encourage their child to change friend groups or ask them to disassociate themselves with certain peers, some stay quiet in fear that their child will rebel and spend more time with them. Friendship problems can have a dramatic effect on their mood and while it may not be your issue, you may still get the backlash.
Tantrums between the ages of 1 and 3 are perfectly normal. If shouting, kicking and screaming all sounds familiar to you then you are experiencing the classic toddler tantrums! Some children have a lot of tantrums and some don’t have many but this is often the only way they can show that they’re upset or frustrated. Toddler tantrums also happen because a child is tired, hungry or thirsty but until they learn language skills, they are unable to explain how they are feeling. Their growth spurt at this stage is quite enormous as their bodies and brains develop, so they need all the good things in life to help them develop – sleep, nutritious food and plenty of TLC.
Oh, The Drama!
Let’s admit it – children’s behaviour can be dramatic especially as they grow older. When they reach primary school, there can be a major fall out with a friend one day with lots of tears because they’re convinced that they’ve lost that friend forever, then they will be the best of friends the next day. A foul mood in the morning could be because they wanted something else for breakfast or because they’re just tired. Drama is a natural part of childhood. As they grow older and with our guidance, they learn how to deal with simple frustrations to an extent. Don’t let your child’s drama enter your own life – be considerate and help them resolve it.