For my website, one of the things I rashly committed to do was answer ’50 Questions that Free your Mind’ (here). It’s a popular choice for Day Zero-er. So before looking I leapt and committed to freeing my mind via 50 questions. To be honest, it wasn’t for me, I tried not to think too much and just answered – maybe I’m too cynical, maybe it’s too late to free me.I took some inspiration from The Day Zero
1.How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?
In my head I am 22. I would like more opportunity to be 22.
2.Which is worse, failing or never trying?
Failing can really hurt, but it’s always worth trying.
3.If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?
Capitalism and consumerism is the main offenders in my humble opinion. But if I really think about it, at this point in my life I do less that I don’t like and more that I do. It’s balance. Being on holiday is great, but if I was on holiday all the time, it wouldn’t be the same.
4.When it’s all said and done, will you have said more than you’ve done?
Oh probably, I talk too much. I’ve ticked off a good list of things done so maybe not. (PS. who is this written for??)
5.What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?
It’s complete inability to value the environment and therefore itself.
6.If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich? is shoveling sunshine work? Alternatively, working a cafe, in the sunshine, open from 10 to 2, with sea views.
7.Are you doing what you believe in, or are you settling for what you are doing?
I’ve done what I believe in, unfortunately, not everyone had the same beliefs. At the moment, I’m settling for what I’m doing and trying not to stress.
8.If the average human life span was 40 years, how would you live your life differently?
I’d be dead! Jeezz! I would not have been a secretary, but then I may not have travelled as much, so maybe that wasn’t so bad. Education would have been a different experience.
9.To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken?
It feels like zero degree – I am not one for plans or ambitions, am a bit of passenger on seeing where life takes me, rather than driving the thing.
10.Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?
(Frankly, this isn’t freeing my mind yet) it depends on what the rights things are? Right as in for the overall good, or right things as in some kind of consumerism/fashion/norm? It’s good to be generally on target, so doing the right thing, but it might not be everyone’s right!
11.You’re having lunch with three people you respect and admire. They all start criticizing a close friend of yours, not knowing she is your friend. The criticism is distasteful and unjustified. What do you do? Defend the friend? Duh? Maybe storm out leaving them with my bill for lunch?
12.If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be?
Sleep – it benefits everyone. Or are you thinking beyond the first 6 months?
13.Would you break the law to save a loved one?
Well, it depends what they’ve been up to – disposing of a body maybe no. Speeding to get them to hospital – yes.
14.Have you ever seen insanity where you later saw creativity?
Yes, thanks and the first part wasn’t great. I do believe there is a fine line between genius and madness.
15.What’s something you know you do differently than most people?
*sighs* right now – not looking before I leap. Note to self: read stuff like this before publicly committing to it.
16.How come the things that make you happy don’t make everyone happy? Because that’s what makes life interesting.
17.What one thing have you not done that you really want to do? What’s holding you back?
Well, I’d like a job. There are a number of things holding me back. However, that’s a whole post in it’s self. Mostly, it’s me, procrastinating.
18.Are you holding onto something you need to let go of? Yes, but I am intending to sell my vinyl.
19.If you had to move to a state or country besides the one you currently live in, where would you move and why? France or Spain because, on the whole, they value food, family and community more than the UK does.
20.Do you push the elevator button more than once? Do you really believe it makes the elevator faster? What idiot thinks it makes it go faster???
21. Would you rather be a worried genius or a joyful simpleton? Joyful simpleton – thanks.
22. Why are you, you? It’s a combination of genetics, nurture, and cultural norms, societal influence.
23.Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend? I hope so.
24.Which is worse, when a good friend moves away, or losing touch with a good friend who lives right near you? Many good friends have moved away, for me, the former. The later is much easier to pick up. Face to face time counts.
25.What are you most grateful for? My son and my partner. Having has the opportunity to spend time in North Wales.
26.Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones? I’m losing my old memories, that’s age. I’m happy making new ones.
27.Is is possible to know the truth without challenging it first?
Information is power – it’s good to question the truth (for example, see The Daily Mail)
28. Has your greatest fear ever come true? thankfully, no.
29.Do you remember that time 5 years ago when you were extremely upset? Does it really matter now? Obviously not. What happened 5 years ago?
30. What is your happiest childhood memory? What makes it so special?
Skipping through the streets of Bromley; it represents; carefree, expectation and happiness. It also involves someone now dead.
31.At what time in your recent past have you felt most passionate and alive?
Giving birth is a fairly extraordinary experience. Being in a packed club at 4 in the morning dancing like a mad thing with a group of friends is good too. I like sitting in sunshine.
32.If not now, then when? Soon.
33.If you haven’t achieved it yet, what do you have to lose? Well, I’m managing thus far!
34.Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever? I talk too much, but I prefer conversation to be a two way thing.
35.Why do religions that support love cause so many wars? because religion has been manipulated to become an institute of the state or an excuse for crap (put simply) (what do I sound like???)
36.Is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil? No one person’s good is another’s evil (eg. prunes in chocolate brownies or marmite).
37. If you just won a million dollars, would you quit your job? Who wouldn’t?
38.Would you rather have less work to do, or more work you actually enjoy doing? Less work.
39.Do you feel like you’ve lived this day a hundred times before? No, days might feel similar but the detail is different – enjoy the small stuff.
40.When was the last time you marched into the dark with only the soft glow of an idea you strongly believed in? Tuesday
41.If you knew that everyone you know was going to die tomorrow, who would you visit today? I’d stay at home with my family. That’s a horrible question.
42,Would you be willing to reduce your life expectancy by 10 years to become extremely attractive or famous? No.
43.What is the difference between being alive and truly living? A level of happiness and contentment that’s individual.
44.When is it time to stop calculating risk and rewards, and just go ahead and do what you know is right? Tomorrow probably.
45.If we learn from our mistakes, why are we always so afraid to make a mistake? We are taught that it’s better to win. It would be better if we valued failure a bit more.
46.What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?
Say what I thought a bit more, but sometimes diplomacy is the best policy.
47.When was the last time you noticed the sound of your own breathing? While doing this *sighs again*
48.What do you love? Have any of your recent actions openly expressed this love? I love walking and being in beautiful places (blimey I blogged about it )
49.In 5 years from now, will you remember what you did yesterday? What about the day before that? Or the day before that? Life isn’t that simple, but I think I will look back on this period fondly.
50.Decisions are being made right now. The question is: Are you making them for yourself, or are you letting others make them for you? I will do the best I can, I appreciate what limits me.
How would you answer the questions?
Am I too cynical? Did these questions make you think?