What if I die?

I don’t like to think that I might die. When my son was a small baby I found myself very concerned with my own mortality. Gradually, over time, I give dying less consideration. Obviously, I will die at some point and I hope that is far into the future, because of this ‘hope’ I’ve never made a will.

‘Making a Will’ is on my Day Zero List but was fairly low in my priorities. Days out, camping, holidays, not eating chocolate for a week. All before making a Will.

Last week I was passing a branch of Age UK and noticed a poster for Will Aid. November is Will Aid month.

Visit a participating solicitor, he or she will draw up a Will and instead of paying them you donate the fee to charity. Will Aid benefits a number of charities. It seemed to me to be a good idea.

A few day’s later I’m drinking tea from a cup and saucer and sitting in a rather posh leather chair at a solicitors. “This is like the mastermind chair” I think. I’ve worn a skirt for the first time in ages and I’m carrying my best handbag. I feel ‘grown up’. Specialist subject ‘me and my assets’.

The mastermind chair turned out to be rather appropriate because the solicitor asked me a number of tricky questions. Some of which I had to “pass” on.

I appreciated in making a Will I would be contemplating my own death and considering my assets. To be honest, I’d not really considered in any depth what would happen to Noo and Mr Noo if I die. I’d certainly blocked out; what if something happens to Mr Noo and me? Who would be a Guardian for our son? What if something happens to the three of us?

I hadn’t considered burial or cremation but that seemed the least of my worries. Although, I may have decided on a song and I’m sure that will come as a huge relief to those left behind.

If the worst did happen I need to know that I’ve put everything in place to the best advantage for Noo. In doing so hope that I’ve made things simpler and less stressful for those I would leave behind.

I’m glad I’ve done it and I very much hope I won’t be needing it for a very, very long time.

Find out more about Will Aid here.

11 Comments

  1. Head in Book

    We didn’t get wills written till our second child was 2.

    It was something I kept putting off and putting off, and finally only got round to because I think there is a special circle of Hell reserved for solicitors who die intestate.

    I did a bit of wills and probate as a trainee and learned enough to know that it is one area you don’t mess with. What you presume would be the case (based on fairness and common sense) often isn’t, unless you explicitly say otherwise. Even if there’s no huge family wealth, things like not wanting children to inherit a house etc at 18 but waiting till they’re hopefully a bit more mature need to be considered, horrible though they are.

    Well done, and I hope the skirt and handbag enjoyed the outing (and that your post encourages both readers and Will Aid to benefit from the chance to get things straight)

  2. Actually Mummy

    We did it the moment our first child was born – it was arduous and expensive, but I’m so glad it’s done. My Dad made his will a few months before he died of cancer, and I know he found it incredibly distressing, so I’m glad mine is out of the way, should anything awful happen

  3. Ally Bean

    I’ve been surrounded by lawyers my whole life. So wills [making of, revision of, execution of] have been dinner table conversation for me. I can see how going into a law office for the first time to think about such things would be startling. But I’m glad that you did it. You need a will, sadly.

  4. Sue

    What a great piece! Thank you for reminding everyone why they really should get on and make that all important Will. It is also important to make sure you keep it up to date as family circumstances change.

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