Ten years ago, this weekend, I flew to the South of France with a group of people to celebrate a friend’s 30th birthday.
We stayed in large house, painted mimosa yellow, tucked away up a single track road, a short walk from Grasse. Its position on the hill, gave the feel of being far from the madding crowd, from the windows, views of the glittering Cote D’Azure.
Shabby chic interiors; huge comfortable sofas, wrought iron bedsteads, baths with claw feet. A big kitchen, designed for communal cooking and eating, opened on to a terrace. That weekend, it was warm enough to sit outside and gaze at blue skies over palm trees. Late breakfast, long lunches, big evening meals, accompanied by a lot of local wine. It was a long, lazy weekend with lots of time for talking.
At the airport, Luton Airport, I was introduced to the man who I’ve now spent 10 years with, who was amongst the group that weekend. He’d just returned from period of living abroad and I was happily living on my own in the North. Here we are 10 years later, one small child, no pets (we’ve yet to reach a compromise on that).
When we decided to relocate to Bristol, we really only knew a couple of people. We left a network of friends and acquaintances. I did wonder how we’d manage as a couple, because mostly it was me and him and one small boy.
We rarely get an evening out together, although occasionally, we sneak off for a walk. We’ve never had a night away on our own since our son was born. All those things that magazines remind you to do, to keep your relationship strong. We potter along, me and him.
I don’t want this to be a sentimental post, I just want to count my blessings. I am very lucky, I have found a person who makes me laugh, who loves many of the same things that I do, but not all – that would be boring. He is never boring, we never run out of things to say. Of course, sometimes, we drive each other mad, and there have been times over the years… well, almost everyone has those times, but mostly they pass.
In buying a house together we have embarked on a new chapter. I feel very content in creating our new life and new home together here, we share and enthusiasm for grey walls and shelves, in a space to call our home.
To the friend who introduced us, you said I’d like him and I do, very much. Happy 40th Birthday L, am sorry we can’t make this birthday adventure. I have so much to thank you for, an introduction to last a lifetime. X