The Christmas cactus is flowering and the first ‘Lego Star Wars’ Advent door is open and here we are; December. December is great, the sparkly month. This first week is the slow expectation before December becomes completely Christmas, twinkling fairy lights and giddy excitement, for most people. For us, there is a special event first.
Christmas baubles and silver notebooks
My silver book of Christmas is still to hand, I’m within touching distance of the being completely organised for Christmas. In this house, the tree doesn’t go up until a week before. It is impossible to stem the tide of tinsel, but for most of the month we are about my small boy’s birthday. Eight. Which causes me to draw breath. I think most parents stop before a moment before their child’s birthday and wonder where the time went. How quickly children change. How hard it is to grasp and keep the tiny details. How sometimes it just creeps up on you. They are still so small and a moment later you catch them in another light and there is a glimpse of a much older child, a flash of the future.
Moving to another city is hard, as much as it is the best decision, it is still often hard. Everyone tells you children are adaptable and my boy has been incredibly adaptable. He has also struggled beyond his depth because we pulled him out of something that suited him well.
December is about celebrating him. Funny, smart, kind and thoughtful. A boy that revels in learning. Keen on spellings and homework. Still stands on the edge because football is too rough. Loves Lego, Star Wars, animal facts and bad jokes.
A small boy on lots of levels currently thriving. Year 3 and in his third school. This school is the right school and it suits him. The path to here has been at times tricky and it could still be better. He is almost 8 and his awareness and perspective on the world is extending. This weekend we took him back North, he compared it with the fresh eyes of an older more knowing child and declared the North better. Moving to another city is bloody hard. My expectation is that December will be good to him and in the year that follows more and more will slot into place and what he had in the North he will have here. Parenting is accentuating the positives and managing the negatives as best you can.
Finding time for me, makes me a better parent. The lull between Christmas and New Year is for looking back and forwards. For the past two years, I’ve completed the Susannah Conway workbook. I find it a really good for reflecting and planning. I’ve spent the last couple of months wrestling with various things, including a feeling of being left behind. I’m aiming to shelve all that and enjoy December and come back to it, hopefully feeling less jaded. The power of positive thinking! The life planner book is a good place to put random thoughts until more head space is available!
More Ideas Than Time
While looking for the ‘life planner’ book, I found the notebook “More ideas than time (& that’s OK)”; never feeling as if I have enough time feels perpetual. Thinking about this and listening to other people and even reading a book on it (do one thing); the thing is, I like being organised, I like details. I like getting the small stuff accomplished. Maybe, I spent too much time on the small things, which is how the big stuff doesn’t get tackled in a way that I’d like. Maybe the details are a form of procrastination. Self-kindness is important; More ideas than time. That’s OK, but In 2016 I want to be better at life.
In the last days of November I baked from the Violet Bakery Cook book. I love the joy of baking, suspending everything for a while and concentrating on creating comfort food. It makes a good break from the whirl of the run-up to Christmas. Birthday cake and Christmas treats, December is for baking; cakes and plans.
What are your intentions for December?